{"id":1830,"date":"2023-07-11T08:41:55","date_gmt":"2023-07-11T07:41:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/?p=1830"},"modified":"2023-07-11T10:03:09","modified_gmt":"2023-07-11T09:03:09","slug":"jak-si-spravne-stezovat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/?p=1830","title":{"rendered":"Jak si spr\u00e1vn\u011b st\u011b\u017eovat"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

St\u011b\u017eujte si! Kritizujte! Prost\u011b \u0159ekn\u011bte, co V\u00e1m vad\u00ed! Vyjad\u0159ujte, co chcete a co nechcete a v souladu s t\u00edm jednejte. A v\u00edte, jak si vlastn\u011b spr\u00e1vn\u011b st\u011b\u017eovat? Poj\u010fme se pod\u00edvat na pravidla st\u011b\u017eov\u00e1n\u00ed si. Jsou d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sedn\u011bte si, vezm\u011bte si pap\u00edr a tu\u017eku a za\u010dn\u011bte ps\u00e1t, co V\u00e1m vlastn\u011b vad\u00ed. N\u011bco na druh\u00e9m, na jeho chov\u00e1n\u00ed? Na situaci? Na instituci? Poru\u0161uje se n\u011bco?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Nejprve pozorujte, co se v ur\u010dit\u00e9 situaci skute\u010dn\u011b d\u011bje:<\/strong> co vid\u00edte, vn\u00edm\u00e1te, co druz\u00ed (ale i my) \u0159\u00edkaj\u00ed nebo d\u011blaj\u00ed a co z toho se V\u00e1m bu\u010f zamlouv\u00e1 nebo nezamlouv\u00e1. Kl\u00ed\u010dem je um\u011bn\u00ed toto pozorov\u00e1n\u00ed vyj\u00e1d\u0159it bez vn\u00e1\u0161en\u00ed vlastn\u00edch \u00fasudk\u016f a hodnocen\u00ed. P\u0159edstavte si, \u017ee sed\u00edte v divadeln\u00ed l\u00f3\u017ei ve druh\u00e9m pat\u0159e, d\u00edv\u00e1te se dol\u016f a popisujete, co se d\u011bje na sc\u00e9n\u011b. Bez emoc\u00ed, bez negativn\u00edch vyj\u00e1d\u0159en\u00ed.<\/li>
  2. V dal\u0161\u00edm kroku vyj\u00e1d\u0159\u00edte, jak se c\u00edt\u00edte,<\/strong> kdy\u017e tuto situaci pozorujete, nap\u0159. c\u00edt\u00edte se p\u0159ekvapen\u00ed, vyd\u011b\u0161en\u00ed, roz\u010dilen\u00ed, m\u00e1te radost atd.<\/li>
  3. Kr\u00e1tce popi\u0161te d\u016fvod sv\u00e9 st\u00ed\u017enosti. <\/strong>Pro\u010d to vlastn\u011b \u0159e\u0161\u00edte?<\/li>
  4. V tomto kroku \u0159ekn\u011bte, jak\u00e9 pot\u0159eby se poj\u00ed s pocity,<\/strong> kter\u00e9 jste u sebe rozpoznali. Tuto informaci m\u016f\u017eete spojit i s vyj\u00e1d\u0159en\u00edm konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed \u017e\u00e1dosti, prosbou nebo \u010dinem, kter\u00fd o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1te \u010di pot\u0159ebujete pro napln\u011bn\u00ed sv\u00fdch pot\u0159eb (v dan\u00e9 situaci).<\/li>
  5. D\u016fsledky pozitivn\u00ed a negativn\u00ed. <\/strong>D\u016fsledky pozitivn\u00ed obsahuj\u00ed kr\u00e1tk\u00e9 informace, co se stane, pokud bude Va\u0161\u00ed st\u00ed\u017enosti vyhov\u011bno. P\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm se uv\u00e1d\u00ed, co z toho pozitivn\u00edho plyne pro danou osobu \u010di instituci. D\u016fsledky negativn\u00ed obsahuj\u00ed informace, co nastane, pokud se st\u00ed\u017enosti nevyhov\u00ed.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    P\u0159\u00edklad:<\/strong> St\u011b\u017eovala jsem si sv\u00e9 nad\u0159\u00edzen\u00e9 na jej\u00ed chov\u00e1n\u00ed, a to osobn\u011b. Asi se pt\u00e1te: \u201eCo\u017ee, to jako jde?\u201c <\/em>Ale ano, samoz\u0159ejm\u011b, jde to. O co \u0161lo. Moje nad\u0159\u00edzen\u00e1, mana\u017eerka v\u00a0oboru vzd\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed, m\u011bla takov\u00fd zlozvyk, kter\u00fd m\u011b p\u0159ipravoval o \u010das a energii. P\u0159i pracovn\u00edch setk\u00e1n\u00edch s\u00a0oblibou a vehementn\u011b pov\u00eddala o sv\u00fdch osobn\u00edch z\u00e1le\u017eitostech. Sice zaj\u00edmav\u00fdch, nicm\u00e9n\u011b v\u00a0dan\u00e9 chv\u00edli jsem pot\u0159ebovala \u0159e\u0161it pracovn\u00ed z\u00e1le\u017eitosti. Nebylo to v\u017edy, ale na m\u016fj vkus \u010dasto. Tr\u00e1pilo m\u011b to, \u0161tvalo, vztekalo a c\u00edtila jsem se zneu\u017e\u00edvan\u00e1. \u010casto jsem pak nest\u00edhala svou pr\u00e1ci. Ale nejv\u00edce mi vadilo, \u017ee jsem z\u00a0toho poslouch\u00e1n\u00ed byla unaven\u00e1, bez energie. Postupem \u010dasu mi sta\u010dilo nad\u0159\u00edzenou jen vid\u011bt a za\u010dal m\u011b bolet \u017ealudek. Sedla jsem si a napsala v\u0161e p\u0159esn\u011b dle n\u00e1vodu, kter\u00fd m\u00e1te zm\u00edn\u011bn\u00fd naho\u0159e. To, co jsem si napsala, jsem \u0159\u00e1dn\u011b promyslela, p\u0159ipravila se a jednoho dne j\u00ed to v klidu \u0159ekla!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    1. Racion\u00e1ln\u00ed popis<\/strong>
      \u201eKl\u00e1ro, kdy\u017e m\u00e1me pracovn\u00ed sch\u016fzku a m\u00e1me \u0159e\u0161it pracovn\u00ed z\u00e1le\u017eitosti, jako prvn\u00ed mluv\u00edte o osobn\u00edch z\u00e1le\u017eitostech a na probr\u00e1n\u00ed t\u011bch pracovn\u00edch zbude jen m\u00e1lo prostoru.\u201c<\/li>
    2. Sd\u011blen\u00ed vlastn\u00edch pocit\u016f<\/strong>
      \u201eJsem z toho zmaten\u00e1 a pak i unaven\u00e1. Takhle mi to nevyhovuje.\u201c<\/li>
    3. V\u00fdznamn\u00e9 pro\u010d
      <\/strong>\u201ePak nestihneme probrat v\u0161e, co od V\u00e1s pot\u0159ebuji. J\u00e1 jsem potom ve skluzu se svoj\u00ed prac\u00ed, a to mi p\u0159id\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1 stres.\u201c<\/li>
    4. Vyj\u00e1d\u0159en\u00ed pot\u0159eby \u010di n\u00e1vrh \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed z Va\u0161\u00ed strany<\/strong>
      <\/strong>\u201eM\u016f\u017eeme se domluvit, \u017ee p\u0159i na\u0161ich sch\u016fzk\u00e1ch nejd\u0159\u00edve za\u010dneme s pracovn\u00edmi t\u00e9maty? Pot\u0159ebuji s V\u00e1mi probrat postupy p\u0159i projektu.\u201c<\/li>
    5. D\u016fsledky pozitivn\u00ed a negativn\u00ed
      D\u016fsledky pozitivn\u00ed<\/strong> (co z toho bude m\u00edt osoba, kter\u00e9 si st\u011b\u017euji?)
      \u201eMysl\u00edm, \u017ee to bude rychl\u00e9, a pak si m\u016f\u017eeme d\u00e1t k\u00e1vu a probrat, jak jde \u017eivot. R\u00e1da si V\u00e1s vyslechnu. Zaj\u00edm\u00e1 m\u011b, jak bylo na dovolen\u00e9.\u201c
      D\u016fsledky negativn\u00ed
      <\/strong>\u201ePokud to takto nep\u016fjde, ob\u00e1v\u00e1m se, \u017ee nebudu st\u00edhat v dan\u00e9m term\u00ednu dokon\u010dit sv\u00e9 \u00fakoly. Co Vy na to?<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Zd\u00e1 se V\u00e1m to odv\u00e1\u017en\u00e9? Ano, bylo to odv\u00e1\u017en\u00e9. V\u017edy\u0165 jsem se odhodl\u00e1vala 2 m\u011bs\u00edce. Kl\u00e1ra byla v\u00fdborn\u00e1 mana\u017eerka a uv\u011bdomovala si svoji upov\u00eddanost. Nakonec jsme se opravdu dohodly, \u017ee to bude tak, jak navrhuji, s t\u00edm, \u017ee ji prost\u011b mohu upozornit, \u017ee pot\u0159ebuji jin\u00e9 podm\u00ednky v komunikaci. Ale pak cht\u011bla na tu k\u00e1vu a pov\u00eddat a pov\u00eddat. A j\u00e1 si uv\u011bdomila, \u017ee m\u011b to unavuje i p\u0159i t\u00e9 k\u00e1v\u011b a nechci poslouchat jej\u00ed osobn\u00ed z\u00e1le\u017eitosti. Zn\u00e1te to, kdy\u017e se introvert sejde s extravertem. Ale to jsem u\u017e ml\u010dela a pila rad\u011bji \u010daj. Nicm\u00e9n\u011b, kdybych to neud\u011blala, dusila svoji nespokojenost a nevyj\u00e1d\u0159ila to, co mi vad\u00ed, pak by se to nad\u00e1le opakovalo. A j\u00e1 bych vnit\u0159n\u011b zu\u0159ila. Bolelo by m\u011b b\u0159icho \u010d\u00edm d\u00e1l v\u00edce. A svoji nad\u0159\u00edzenou bych vnit\u0159n\u011b odsuzovala a n\u00e1\u0161 vztah by se zhor\u0161oval.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Na co si d\u00e1t pozor p\u0159i st\u00ed\u017enosti?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      1. Nejednejte pod vlivem emoc\u00ed.<\/strong> Pro\u010d? Jednodu\u0161e proto, \u017ee p\u0159i emoc\u00edch se n\u00e1m kr\u00e1tkodob\u011b sn\u00ed\u017e\u00ed IQ a\u017e o 30 bod\u016f. Kdy\u017e si vezmeme, \u017ee pr\u016fm\u011br IQ v\u00a0na\u0161\u00ed populaci je 100, pak p\u0159i ode\u010dten\u00ed 30 bod\u016f se dost\u00e1v\u00e1me na \u010d\u00edslo 70. Od 69 bod\u016f IQ se diagnostikuje slab\u00e1 ment\u00e1ln\u00ed retardace. U\u017e to ch\u00e1pete? Prost\u011b na\u0161e racion\u00e1ln\u00ed a logick\u00e9 uva\u017eov\u00e1n\u00ed je p\u0159ekryto emocemi a my p\u0159istupujeme k automatick\u00e9mu chov\u00e1n\u00ed, kter\u00e9 nen\u00ed v\u017edy vhodn\u00e9.<\/li>
      2. Bu\u010fte konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed, ne obecn\u00ed.<\/strong> Na konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed vyj\u00e1d\u0159en\u00ed se efektivn\u011bji reaguje. Nav\u00edc m\u00e1te velkou \u0161anci, \u017ee budete pochopeni a vysly\u0161eni.<\/li>
      3. Nenapadejte osobnost. <\/strong>St\u011b\u017eujete-li si na chov\u00e1n\u00ed \u010dlov\u011bka, pak prost\u011b popi\u0161te jeho chov\u00e1n\u00ed a d\u016fsledky jeho chov\u00e1n\u00ed. Nenapadejte jeho osobnost r\u016fzn\u00fdmi n\u00e1lepkami (jako nap\u0159\u00edklad: \u201ejste ignorant a neschopn\u00fd \u010dlov\u011bk\u201c).P\u0159i\u00a0st\u00ed\u017enosti, pota\u017emo v\u00a0kritice m\u00e1me b\u00fdt laskav\u00ed k\u00a0osobnosti, ale d\u016fsledn\u00ed a p\u0159esn\u00ed v\u00a0pojmenov\u00e1n\u00ed probl\u00e9mov\u00e9ho chov\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

        Pokud ale nem\u00e1te co \u0159\u00edct a \u0159e\u0161\u00edte svou emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed frustraci, nespokojenost v \u017eivot\u011b, pak se pozorn\u011b zad\u00edvejte na obr\u00e1zek a pokud to p\u016fjde, zm\u00e1\u010dkn\u011bte \u010derven\u00fd knofl\u00edk! T\u0159eba to pom\u016f\u017ee.<\/p>\n\n\n

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        Pokud si chcete post\u011b\u017eovat, stiskn\u011bte \u010derven\u00e9 tla\u010d\u00edtko<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

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        St\u011b\u017eujte si! Kritizujte! Prost\u011b \u0159ekn\u011bte, co V\u00e1m vad\u00ed! Vyjad\u0159ujte, co chcete a co nechcete a v souladu s t\u00edm jednejte. A v\u00edte, jak si vlastn\u011b spr\u00e1vn\u011b st\u011b\u017eovat? Poj\u010fme se pod\u00edvat na pravidla st\u011b\u017eov\u00e1n\u00ed si. Jsou d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1. Sedn\u011bte si, vezm\u011bte si pap\u00edr a tu\u017eku a za\u010dn\u011bte ps\u00e1t, co V\u00e1m vlastn\u011b vad\u00ed. N\u011bco na druh\u00e9m, na jeho chov\u00e1n\u00ed? Na…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1830","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-z-prace"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1830","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/9"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1830"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1830\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1835,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1830\/revisions\/1835"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1830"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1830"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1830"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}