{"id":194,"date":"2016-05-29T10:48:38","date_gmt":"2016-05-29T09:48:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/?p=194"},"modified":"2016-05-29T10:48:38","modified_gmt":"2016-05-29T09:48:38","slug":"small-talk-umeni-prijemne-spolecenske-konverzace","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/?p=194","title":{"rendered":"Small talk \u2013 um\u011bn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 spole\u010densk\u00e9 konverzace"},"content":{"rendered":"

Small talk (doslova: mal\u00e1 bezv\u00fdznamn\u00e1 konverzace) m\u00e1 mnohem v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed spole\u010densk\u00fd a pracovn\u00ed v\u00fdznam, ne\u017e si mnohdy mysl\u00edme. Ale jak se do n\u00ed pustit? Mluvme, mluvme, mluvme! Mluvme ka\u017ed\u00fd den a s k\u00fdmkoli.<\/strong> \u0158ekn\u011bme sousedovi, \u017ee m\u00e1 u dve\u0159\u00ed hezkou roho\u017eku. Zeptejme se \u010dlov\u011bka u v\u00fdtahu, co to m\u00e1 za kr\u00e1snou v\u016fni. Pochvalme<\/strong> \u00fa\u0159ednici jej\u00ed profesn\u00ed znalosti nebo t\u0159eba jen n\u00e1ramek. U\u010dme se mluvit s ciz\u00edmi lidmi v\u00a0situac\u00edch, kdy o nic nejde,<\/strong> a ostatn\u00ed pak bude hra\u010dka.<\/p>\n

P\u0159edstavte si, \u017ee stoj\u00edte se svou tchyn\u00ed ve front\u011b na ban\u00e1ny nebo \u010dek\u00e1te se sv\u00fdm \u0161\u00e9fem u v\u00fdtahu. Oba se na V\u00e1s hezky usm\u00edvaj\u00ed, jako by po V\u00e1s n\u011bco cht\u011bli. U\u017e jste je pozdravili, tak co v\u00edc? Ml\u010det jako ryba a oba ignorovat, to nen\u00ed nejlep\u0161\u00ed. Jak\u00fdm t\u00e9matem ale p\u0159eru\u0161it to hlasit\u00e9 ticho, abychom nevypadali vt\u00edrav\u011b, hloup\u011b, podl\u00e9zav\u011b, ale sp\u00ed\u0161e nenucen\u011b, p\u0159\u00e1telsky, prost\u011b jako spole\u010den\u0161t\u00ed tvorov\u00e9?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Small talk m\u016f\u017eeme pou\u017e\u00edt v konverzaci s lidmi, kter\u00e9 zn\u00e1me, ale tak\u00e9 s\u00a0jedinci n\u00e1m naprosto nezn\u00e1m\u00fdmi \u2013 jako odrazov\u00fd m\u016fstek. Small talk n\u00e1m m\u016f\u017ee p\u0159i prvn\u00edm setk\u00e1n\u00ed v\u00a0nemal\u00e9 m\u00ed\u0159e usnadnit spole\u010densk\u00fd styk, z\u00a0form\u00e1ln\u00ed atmosf\u00e9ry m\u016f\u017eeme brzy vytvo\u0159it atmosf\u00e9ru neform\u00e1ln\u00ed. <\/strong>U\u017e se V\u00e1m stalo, \u017ee se dva p\u00e1nov\u00e9 zapov\u00eddali v drog\u00e9rii u \u010distic\u00edch prost\u0159edk\u016f a prob\u00edrali, kter\u00fd je \u00fa\u010dinn\u00fd na co?<\/p>\n

S\u00a0jak\u00fdmi t\u00e9maty tedy m\u016f\u017eeme prorazit?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Po\u010das\u00ed.<\/strong> Je to trochu ot\u0159epan\u00e9, jist\u011b. Ale co se t\u00edm d\u00e1 pokazit? V\u00a0rozhovorech o po\u010das\u00ed jsou mistry Angli\u010dan\u00e9 a nebojme se vz\u00edt si z\u00a0nich p\u0159\u00edklad.<\/p>\n

Konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed situace a m\u00edsto. <\/strong>Rozhl\u00e9dn\u011bme se okolo a okomentujme, co n\u00e1s zaujalo. Byl to kv\u011btin\u00e1\u010d na chodb\u011b \u00fa\u0159adu s\u00a0podivn\u011b vyhl\u00ed\u017eej\u00edc\u00ed rostlinou? Zaj\u00edmav\u00e1 mozaika na st\u011bn\u011b? Fronta na soci\u00e1ln\u00edm odboru?<\/p>\n

\u201eJak se dnes m\u00e1te? Fajn den?\u201c <\/strong>Projev\u00edme-li z\u00e1jem o druh\u00e9ho, m\u00e1me na n\u011bkolik minut vystar\u00e1no. N\u00e1\u0161 prot\u011bj\u0161ek n\u00e1m pak s\u00e1m nab\u00eddne t\u00e9mata, kter\u00e1 m\u016f\u017eeme rozv\u00edjet d\u00e1le.<\/p>\n

Denn\u00ed cestov\u00e1n\u00ed. <\/strong>Co si pod t\u00edm p\u0159edstavit? Od vybaven\u00ed voz\u016f m\u011bstsk\u00e9 hromadn\u00e9 dopravy, p\u0159es vkusn\u011b i nevkusn\u011b posprejovan\u00e9 zast\u00e1vky a\u017e po ceny benzinu.<\/p>\n

Komplimenty. <\/strong>Patol\u00edzalov\u00e9 neb\u00fdvaj\u00ed obl\u00edben\u00ed, ale pokud mysl\u00edme slova chv\u00e1ly up\u0159\u00edmn\u011b, rozhodn\u011b pot\u011b\u0161\u00edme. Vhodn\u011b zvolen\u00fdm komplimentem, nap\u0159. o oble\u010den\u00ed, je mo\u017en\u00e9 zah\u00e1jit konverzaci p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem.<\/p>\n

A o \u010dem nemluvit?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Rodina. N\u00e1bo\u017eenstv\u00ed. Sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed orientace (moje nebo \u0161\u00e9fova). <\/strong>Pokud je t\u00e9ma p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 osobn\u00ed, nen\u00ed vhodn\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Drby o komkoli. <\/strong>Pozor na to. Zn\u00e1me to: p\u0159ed jedn\u00edm \u0159eknete, \u017ee ten druh\u00fd je hloup\u00fd, a od t\u0159et\u00edho dostanete, proto\u017ee je to jeho \u0161vagr. Nehled\u011b k\u00a0tomu, \u017ee z\u00a0negativn\u011b lad\u011bn\u00e9ho rozhovoru nem\u00e1 dobr\u00fd pocit nikdo.<\/p>\n

Politika a cokoli s\u00a0konfliktn\u00edm potenci\u00e1lem. \u201e<\/strong>Sl\u00e1vie vyhr\u00e1la, super!\u201c \u201eJosef Nov\u00e1k je jedin\u00fd mo\u017en\u00fd kandid\u00e1t na prezidenta republiky.\u201c \u201eJste taky pro zaveden\u00ed trestu smrti? J\u00e1 rozhodn\u011b!\u201c Co dodat? H\u00e1dat se nen\u00ed smyslem small talku, tak se do toho rad\u0161i nepou\u0161t\u011bjme.<\/p>\n

A\u0165 je atmosf\u00e9ra jak\u00e1koli, vynechejme b\u011bhem sv\u00e9 konverzace lechtiv\u00e1 t\u00e9mata. Nemluvme ani o probl\u00e9mech s\u00a0partnerem nebo kolegou. Tabu jsou diskuse o v\u00fd\u0161i platu a finan\u010dn\u00edch pom\u011brech. Na druhou stranu ani neutr\u00e1ln\u00ed n\u00e1m\u011bty jako kvantov\u00e1 fyzika do small talku nepat\u0159\u00ed. Velk\u00e1 a slo\u017eit\u00e1 t\u00e9mata nechme na jin\u00fd typ debaty. Mysleme na to, \u017ee konverzaci mus\u00edme b\u00fdt schopni kdykoliv dv\u011bma v\u011btami ukon\u010dit.<\/p>\n

Vhodn\u011b zvolen\u00e9 t\u00e9ma je z\u00e1kladem \u00fasp\u011bchu, ale nen\u00ed to v\u0161echno.<\/strong><\/p>\n

P\u0159edn\u011b mus\u00edme b\u00fdt ochotni takovou konverzaci v\u00e9st a mus\u00ed to na n\u00e1s b\u00fdt vid\u011bt. Usm\u00edvejme se, bu\u010fme zdrav\u011b asertivn\u00ed, mluvme pomalu a dostate\u010dn\u011b nahlas. Nebojme se prok\u00e1zat z\u00e1jem o na\u0161eho partnera v\u00a0konverzaci a pokl\u00e1dejme p\u0159im\u011b\u0159en\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky. Bu\u010fme dobr\u00fdmi poslucha\u010di a nesk\u00e1kejme do \u0159e\u010di.<\/p>\n

Pokud dodr\u017e\u00edte v\u0161echna, nebo alespo\u0148 n\u011bkter\u00e1 z\u00a0uveden\u00fdch pravidel, v\u011bzte, \u017ee p\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u011b V\u00e1m t\u011bch n\u011bkolik minut u v\u00fdtahu nebo ve front\u011b na ban\u00e1ny ub\u011bhne samo.<\/p>\n

Ji\u0159\u00ed Dohnal, lektor semin\u00e1\u0159e Small talk<\/strong> (publikov\u00e1no v Nev\u0161edn\u00edku)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Small talk (doslova: mal\u00e1 bezv\u00fdznamn\u00e1 konverzace) m\u00e1 mnohem v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed spole\u010densk\u00fd a pracovn\u00ed v\u00fdznam, ne\u017e si mnohdy mysl\u00edme. Ale jak se do n\u00ed pustit? Mluvme, mluvme, mluvme! Mluvme ka\u017ed\u00fd den a s k\u00fdmkoli. \u0158ekn\u011bme sousedovi, \u017ee m\u00e1 u dve\u0159\u00ed hezkou roho\u017eku. Zeptejme se \u010dlov\u011bka u v\u00fdtahu, co to m\u00e1 za kr\u00e1snou v\u016fni. Pochvalme \u00fa\u0159ednici jej\u00ed profesn\u00ed…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-194","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-z-prace"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/194","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/10"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=194"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/194\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":195,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/194\/revisions\/195"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=194"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=194"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=194"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}