{"id":2206,"date":"2024-04-12T17:11:23","date_gmt":"2024-04-12T16:11:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/?p=2206"},"modified":"2024-04-12T17:45:54","modified_gmt":"2024-04-12T16:45:54","slug":"cekani-na-miminko-aneb-rozhovor-dvou-nenarozenych-deti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/?p=2206","title":{"rendered":"\u010cek\u00e1n\u00ed na miminko aneb Rozhovor dvou nenarozen\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Tento p\u0159\u00edsp\u011bvek asi bude trochu infantiln\u00ed :-) a pro mnoho m\u00fdch klient\u016f-\u00fa\u0159edn\u00edk\u016f naprosto \u201emimo m\u00edsu\u201c, ale pro ty, kte\u0159\u00ed m\u011b znaj\u00ed o chlup l\u00e9pe, to bude dal\u0161\u00ed str\u00e1nka do pov\u011bstn\u00e9 knihy Radimova \u017eivota.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ve sv\u00fdch 46 letech jsem si po\u0159\u00eddil miminko. Je leden 2024 a my jsme na za\u010d\u00e1tku 3. trimetru\u2026 Ale cel\u00fd \u017eivot jsem cht\u011bl potomka. Ve t\u0159iceti mi dokonce tikaly pov\u011bstn\u00e9 biologick\u00e9 hodiny, ale ne\u017e m\u00edt d\u00edt\u011b za ka\u017edou cenu bez ohledu na to \u201es\u00a0k\u00fdm\u201c, rozhodl jsem se dozr\u00e1t a po\u010dkat si na tu nejprav\u011bj\u0161\u00ed z\u00a0prav\u00fdch. Ostatn\u011b m\u00e9 \u017eivotn\u00ed anab\u00e1ze byly inspirac\u00ed pro <a href=\"https:\/\/www.akademie-vzdelavani.cz\/nase-knihy\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">rom\u00e1ny On\/Ona<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>T\u011bhotenstv\u00ed si u\u017e\u00edv\u00e1m \u2026 no, jak bych to nejl\u00e9pe napsal \u2026 jako d\u00edt\u011b! U\u017e\u00edv\u00e1m si kop\u00e1n\u00ed miminka, u\u017e\u00edv\u00e1m si hru na doteky, kdy j\u00e1 d\u00e1m prst na b\u0159\u00ed\u0161ko a miminko tam d\u00e1 ruku\/nohu, a pak zase zm\u011bn\u00edm m\u00edsto a miminko mi zase d\u00e1v\u00e1 pac (high-five). Sp\u00ed\u0161 jde ale o n\u00e1hodn\u00e9 reflexy ne\u017e opravdovou hru \ud83d\ude07 Poprv\u00e9 v&nbsp;\u017eivot\u011b chod\u00edm na ultrazvuk a nech\u00e1pu, jak doktor rozezn\u00e1 na monitoru v&nbsp;t\u00e9 sm\u011bsi pades\u00e1ti odst\u00edn\u016f \u0161edi, kde je kter\u00e1 \u010d\u00e1st t\u011bla miminka. Cel\u00e9 ve\u010dery sed\u00edm na netu a vyb\u00edr\u00e1m oble\u010den\u00ed, hra\u010dky, post\u00fdlku, \u2026, a\u017e to m\u00edsty vypad\u00e1 jako z&nbsp;rom\u00e1nu On:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><em>\u017dena si vyb\u00edr\u00e1 ko\u010d\u00e1rek podle krit\u00e9ri\u00ed: nafukovac\u00ed\/plastov\u00e1 kola, oto\u010dn\u00e1\/pevn\u00e1 kola, p\u0159ehazovac\u00ed rukoje\u0165\/oto\u010dn\u00e9 sezen\u00ed.<br>Mu\u017e vyb\u00edr\u00e1 ko\u010d\u00e1rek jako auto: Kolik m\u00e1 kol? Maj\u00ed odpru\u017een\u00ed? Jak\u00e1 je hmotnost, nosnost a&nbsp;skladnost? M\u00e1 n\u00e1hon na p\u0159edn\u00ed kola? Je v&nbsp;metal\u00edze? Co spot\u0159eba? A voliteln\u00e1 v\u00fdbava? N\u00e1no\u017en\u00edk, polohovateln\u00e9 op\u011brky, ergonomick\u00e1 rukoje\u0165?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Inu, prvn\u00ed tipy na ko\u010d\u00e1rek byly opravdu divok\u00e9 \ud83d\ude01 ale man\u017eelka m\u00e1 po 3 d\u011btech u\u017e jasnou p\u0159edstavu o tom, jak\u00fd ko\u010d\u00e1rek je pro 4. d\u00edtko dosta\u010duj\u00edc\u00ed&#8230; A pak mi jeden ve\u010der vypr\u00e1v\u011bla rozhovor dvou nenarozen\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>V b\u0159\u00ed\u0161ku t\u011bhotn\u00e9 \u017eeny byla dv\u011b miminka. Prvn\u00ed se druh\u00e9ho zeptalo:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>V\u011b\u0159\u00ed\u0161 v \u017eivot po porodu?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>Ur\u010dit\u011b. N\u011bco po porodu mus\u00ed b\u00fdt. Mo\u017en\u00e1 jsme tu hlavn\u011b proto, abychom se p\u0159ipravili na to, co bude pak.<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Blbost, \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd \u017eivot po porodu nen\u00ed. Jak by v\u016fbec mohl vypadat?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>To p\u0159esn\u011b nev\u00edm, ale ur\u010dit\u011b tam bude v\u00edc sv\u011btla ne\u017e tady. T\u0159eba budeme b\u011bhat po sv\u00fdch a j\u00edst pusou.<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>No to je p\u0159ece nesmysl! B\u011bhat se ned\u00e1. A j\u00edst pusou, to je \u00fapln\u011b sm\u011b\u0161n\u00e9! \u017div\u00ed n\u00e1s p\u0159ece pupe\u010dn\u00ed \u0161\u0148\u016fra. N\u011bco ti \u0159eknu: \u017divot po porodu je vylou\u010den\u00fd \u2013 pupe\u010dn\u00ed \u0161\u0148\u016fra je u\u017e te\u010f moc kr\u00e1tk\u00e1.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>Ba ne, ur\u010dit\u011b n\u011bco bude. Jen asi bude v\u0161echno trochu jinak, ne\u017e jsme tady zvykl\u00ed.<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ale nikdo se p\u0159ece odtamtud po porodu nevr\u00e1til. Porodem prost\u011b \u017eivot kon\u010d\u00ed. A v\u016fbec, \u017eivot nen\u00ed nic ne\u017e vlekl\u00e1 st\u00edsn\u011bnost v temnu.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>No, j\u00e1 p\u0159esn\u011b nev\u00edm, jak to bude po porodu vypadat, ale ka\u017edop\u00e1dn\u011b uvid\u00edme m\u00e1mu a ta se o n\u00e1s postar\u00e1.<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>M\u00e1ma? Ty v\u011b\u0159\u00ed\u0161 na m\u00e1mu? A kde m\u00e1 jako podle tebe b\u00fdt?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>No p\u0159ece v\u0161ude kolem n\u00e1s! V n\u00ed a d\u00edky n\u00ed \u017eijeme. Bez n\u00ed bychom v\u016fbec nebyli.<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Tomu nev\u011b\u0159\u00edm! \u017d\u00e1dnou m\u00e1mu jsem nikdy nevid\u011bl, tak\u017ee je jasn\u00e9, \u017ee \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e1 nen\u00ed.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>No ale n\u011bkdy, kdy\u017e jsme zticha, m\u016f\u017ee\u0161 zaslechnout, jak zp\u00edv\u00e1, nebo c\u00edtit, jak hlad\u00ed n\u00e1\u0161 sv\u011bt. V\u00ed\u0161, j\u00e1 si fakt mysl\u00edm, \u017ee opravdov\u00fd \u017eivot n\u00e1s \u010dek\u00e1 a\u017e potom&#8230;<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2026<br>Do term\u00ednu porodu zb\u00fdv\u00e1 5 dn\u00ed a je to takov\u00e9 \u010dek\u00e1n\u00ed na Godota \ud83d\udc76\ud83d\ude03 Term\u00edn je to teoretick\u00fd a miminko pr\u00fd samo pozn\u00e1, kdy zatou\u017e\u00ed zjistit, zda existuje \u017eivot po porodu. Nejkr\u00e1sn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed jsou okam\u017eiky o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed toho nezn\u00e1m\u00e9ho\u2026 toho, co jsem nikdy neza\u017eil. Ta\u0161ka do porodnice sbalen\u00e1, PFko oznamuj\u00edc\u00ed narozen\u00ed d\u00edtka p\u0159ipraveno, p\u0159ebalovac\u00ed pult sestaven\u00fd, auto pro 8 cestuj\u00edc\u00edch vybr\u00e1no\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2026<br>A nastal den R. Vyjeli jsme v\u00a022 h do porodnice se stahy po 5 minut\u00e1ch. Dokonce jsem se m\u011bs\u00edce dop\u0159edu  t\u011b\u0161il, jak v\u00a0m\u011b\u0159en\u00e9m \u00faseku p\u0159ekro\u010d\u00edm rychlost a nedostanu pokutu, proto\u017ee to je jedin\u00e1 v\u00fdjimka, kdy pokutu dostat p\u0159i p\u0159ekro\u010den\u00ed rychlosti v obci nelze \ud83d\ude98<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>P\u0159iv\u00edtaly n\u00e1s dv\u011b sest\u0159i\u010dky\/porodn\u00ed asistentky a jedna \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 \u201eje brzo \u2013 vra\u0165te se dom\u016f\u201c a druh\u00e1 na to \u201e\u010dtvrt\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b? rozhodn\u011b z\u016fsta\u0148te!\u201c. Z\u016fstali jsme a za 5 h bylo d\u00edtko na sv\u011bt\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nejhor\u0161\u00ed b\u011bhem porodu je ta bezmoc, kdy\u017e man\u017eelku tr\u00e1p\u00ed obrovsk\u00e9 bolesti a man\u017eel nem\u016f\u017ee d\u011blat zhola nic! A person\u00e1l jen \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 \u201ed\u00fdchejte,&nbsp;d\u00fdchejte\u201c. (Pozn. man\u017eelky: <em>To je blbost, proto\u017ee zhola nic jsi ned\u011blal! Byl jsi tam se mnou a bez \u0159e\u010d\u00ed sis nechal drtit ruku <\/em>\ud83d\ude01). Ale ta radost z&nbsp;narozen\u00ed mal\u00e9ho z\u00e1zraku p\u0159ekryje tu bezmoc. Poprv\u00e9 v&nbsp;\u017eivot\u011b jsem za\u017eil slzy \u0161t\u011bst\u00ed. Rian spat\u0159il sv\u011btlo sv\u011bta vysm\u00e1t\u00fd jako mal\u00fd, roztomil\u00fd ban\u00e1n. A tady u\u017e slibovan\u00e9 PFko:<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><a href=\"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/pf-rian-01.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"957\" height=\"671\" src=\"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/pf-rian-01.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2207\" srcset=\"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/pf-rian-01.png 957w, https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/pf-rian-01-300x210.png 300w, https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/pf-rian-01-768x538.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 957px) 100vw, 957px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><a href=\"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/pf-rian-02.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"954\" height=\"551\" src=\"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/pf-rian-02.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2208\" srcset=\"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/pf-rian-02.png 954w, https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/pf-rian-02-300x173.png 300w, https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/pf-rian-02-768x444.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 954px) 100vw, 954px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Etika a empatie ve zdravotnictv\u00ed<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Asi ka\u017ed\u00fd m\u00e1me n\u011bjakou tu zku\u0161enost s lajd\u00e1ck\u00fdmi l\u00e9ka\u0159i, kte\u0159\u00ed l\u00e9\u010d\u00ed, l\u00e9\u010d\u00ed, ale nevyl\u00e9\u010d\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Man\u017eelka vzpom\u00edn\u00e1, \u017ee kdy\u017e chod\u00edvala na preventivn\u00ed prohl\u00eddky k&nbsp;\u017eensk\u00e9 l\u00e9ka\u0159ce, tak ji d\u011bsila slovy <em>\u201enebudete m\u00edt probl\u00e9m ot\u011bhotn\u011bt, ale budete m\u00edt velk\u00fd probl\u00e9m d\u00edt\u011b donosit\u201c.<\/em> Jak tohle p\u016fsob\u00ed na \u017eenu, kter\u00e1 ot\u011bhotn\u00ed, a v&nbsp;u\u0161\u00edch j\u00ed zn\u00ed doktor\u010dina slova?! Nakonec man\u017eelka odnosila \u010dty\u0159i d\u011bti. Do posledn\u00ed chv\u00edle chodila do pr\u00e1ce, byla aktivn\u00ed a v\u0161echny se narodily v term\u00ednu. Gynekolo\u017eka p\u0159ed n\u011bkolika m\u00e1lo lety zem\u0159ela na probl\u00e9my souvisej\u00edc\u00ed s&nbsp;jej\u00ed odbornost\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>J\u00e1 vzpom\u00edn\u00e1m, kdy\u017e jsem p\u0159ed lety za\u0161el z hecu na spermiogram a v\u00fdsledky byly d\u011bsiv\u00e9: pravd\u011bpodobnost oplodn\u011bn\u00ed p\u0159irozenou cestou byla 0,01 %. To nen\u00ed pro mu\u017ee, kter\u00e9mu tikaj\u00ed hodiny, povzbuzuj\u00edc\u00ed zpr\u00e1va. L\u00e9ka\u0159 mi doporu\u010dil l\u00e9\u010dbu za des\u00edtky tis\u00edc. M\u00edsto toho jsem se obr\u00e1til na jin\u00e9ho l\u00e9ka\u0159e; MUDr. Google mi poradil, abych omezil k\u00e1vu na 3 \u0161\u00e1lky denn\u011b a nosil voln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed spodn\u00ed pr\u00e1dlo. Dal\u0161\u00ed spermiogram dopadl o pozn\u00e1n\u00ed l\u00e9pe: pravd\u011bpodobnost oplodn\u011bn\u00ed p\u0159irozenou cestou byla 99,01 %. Jedn\u00edm v\u00fdronem jsem mohl zdvojn\u00e1sobit populaci USA. Zadarmo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong>Ponau\u010den\u00ed:<br><\/strong>\u017d\u00e1dn\u00e1 ka\u0161e se nej\u00ed tak hork\u00e1, jak se uva\u0159\u00ed.<br>Nic nen\u00ed tak zl\u00e9, jak se na prvn\u00ed pohled zd\u00e1.<br>Nic nen\u00ed tak nal\u00e9hav\u00e9, jak n\u011bkdo tvrd\u00ed.<br>(Pozn. man\u017eelky: <em>No, krom\u011b toho, kdy\u017e se miminko dere na sv\u011bt <\/em>\ud83e\udd23<em>To mi teda dost nal\u00e9hav\u00e9 p\u0159i\u0161lo<\/em><em>.<\/em>)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tento p\u0159\u00edsp\u011bvek asi bude trochu infantiln\u00ed :-) a pro mnoho m\u00fdch klient\u016f-\u00fa\u0159edn\u00edk\u016f naprosto \u201emimo m\u00edsu\u201c, ale pro ty, kte\u0159\u00ed m\u011b znaj\u00ed o chlup l\u00e9pe, to bude dal\u0161\u00ed str\u00e1nka do pov\u011bstn\u00e9 knihy Radimova \u017eivota. Ve sv\u00fdch 46 letech jsem si po\u0159\u00eddil miminko. Je leden 2024 a my jsme na za\u010d\u00e1tku 3. trimetru\u2026 Ale cel\u00fd \u017eivot jsem&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2206","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ze-zivota"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2206","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/10"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2206"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2206\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2211,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2206\/revisions\/2211"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2206"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2206"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2206"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}