{"id":318,"date":"2018-05-26T09:32:09","date_gmt":"2018-05-26T08:32:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/?p=318"},"modified":"2018-05-26T09:32:09","modified_gmt":"2018-05-26T08:32:09","slug":"jak-odmitnout-tykani","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/?p=318","title":{"rendered":"Jak odm\u00edtnout tyk\u00e1n\u00ed…"},"content":{"rendered":"

U\u017e se V\u00e1m to v \u017eivot\u011b stalo, \u017ee jste si ale opravdu necht\u011bli s n\u011bk\u00fdm tykat<\/strong> bu\u010f proto, \u017ee jste tu\u0161ili, \u017ee si pak za\u010dne k V\u00e1m dovolat mnohem v\u00edce<\/strong> nebo jste prost\u011b c\u00edtili takovou tu obrovskou \u00factu<\/strong> a neum\u011bli jste si p\u0159edstavit, \u017ee byste dan\u00e9mu \u010dlov\u011bku za\u010dali jen tak tykat?<\/p>\n

B\u011bhem prvn\u00edho setk\u00e1n\u00ed s rodi\u010di m\u00e9 p\u0159\u00edtelkyn\u011b (potenci\u00e1ln\u00edmi tch\u00e1ny) m\u011b maminka <\/em>neust\u00e1le oslovovala titulem (pane in\u017een\u00fdre sem, pane in\u017een\u00fdre tam). Kdy\u017e to \u0159ekla pot\u0159et\u00ed, usm\u00e1l jsem se a \u0159ekl: \u201eBudu r\u00e1d, budete-li mne oslovovat jm\u00e9nem.\u201c<\/em> Jen\u017ee ona to pochopila jako nab\u00eddku tyk\u00e1n\u00ed z m\u00e9 strany a \u0159\u00edk\u00e1: \u201eTak fajn, budem si tykat \u2013 j\u00e1 jsem Simona,\u201c<\/em> a nap\u0159\u00e1hla pravici p\u0159es m\u00e1tov\u00fd \u010daj.<\/p>\n

A co te\u010f? Ruka, kterou se neodm\u00edt\u00e1, ve vzduchu, nab\u00eddka vy\u0159\u010dena, a p\u0159esto V\u00e1m to nejde p\u0159es \u00fasta. \u0158ekl jsem jen: \u201eVelmi si v\u00e1\u017e\u00edm Va\u0161\u00ed nab\u00eddky, ale s\u00a0ohledem na \u00factu, kterou chov\u00e1m k\u00a0Va\u0161\u00ed b\u00e1je\u010dn\u00e9 dce\u0159i a k\u00a0V\u00e1m, dovolte, \u017ee z\u016fstanu u\u00a0vyk\u00e1n\u00ed. Budu v\u0161ak r\u00e1d, pokud Vy mn\u011b budete tykat.\u201c <\/em>Od t\u00e9 doby mi oba tykaj\u00ed a j\u00e1 jim ve v\u0161\u00ed \u00fact\u011b vyk\u00e1m.<\/p>\n

Tyk\u00e1n\u00ed a vyk\u00e1n\u00ed v\u00a0p\u00edsemn\u00e9m styku<\/h1>\n

Jak \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 Ladislav \u0160pa\u010dek: \u201eTyk\u00e1n\u00ed navrhuje v\u017edy spole\u010densky v\u00fdznamn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed osoba. Mezi osobami stejn\u00e9ho pohlav\u00ed je to ta v\u00fdrazn\u011b star\u0161\u00ed (u rozd\u00edlu do deseti let prioritu nehledejme, je to jedno). Mezi dosp\u011bl\u00fdm mu\u017eem a\u00a0dosp\u011blou \u017eenou tyk\u00e1n\u00ed navrhuje \u017eena. Nehledejme komplikace p\u0159i v\u011bkov\u00e9m rozd\u00edlu, ani 30 let rozd\u00edlu neznamen\u00e1, \u017ee p\u0159ednost z\u00edsk\u00e1 mu\u017e. Ale pozor, na pracovi\u0161ti jej navrhuje jedin\u011b \u0161\u00e9f. Ani star\u0161\u00ed pod\u0159\u00edzen\u00fd nebo pod\u0159\u00edzen\u00e1 nemohou p\u0159ij\u00edt za \u0161\u00e9fem a\u00a0navrhnout mu tyk\u00e1n\u00ed; o\u00a0tom, koho si pust\u00ed bl\u00ed\u017e k\u00a0t\u011blu, si m\u016f\u017ee rozhodnout jedin\u011b nad\u0159\u00edzen\u00fd, ne jeho pod\u0159\u00edzen\u00ed.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

Nen\u00ed vhodn\u00e9 nab\u00edzet tyk\u00e1n\u00ed e-mailem.<\/strong> Nejen\u017ee chyb\u00ed projev v\u016fle viditeln\u00fd o\u010dima, chyb\u00ed stisk ruky a v\u016fbec zde vn\u00edm\u00e1me absenci toho okam\u017eiku, kdy se osoba spole\u010densky v\u00fdznamn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed rozhodla nab\u00eddnout n\u00e1m n\u011bco, co zp\u011bt ji\u017e vz\u00edt nem\u016f\u017ee.<\/p>\n

Z\u00e1rove\u0148 v\u0161ak plat\u00ed, \u017ee osoba spole\u010densky m\u00e9n\u011b v\u00fdznamn\u00e1 by nab\u00eddku tyk\u00e1n\u00ed (i u\u010din\u011bnou p\u00edsemn\u011b) nem\u011bla odm\u00edtnout. Existuj\u00ed situace \u2013 a mo\u017en\u00e1 si na jednu \u010di dv\u011b ve sv\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b vzpomenete \u2013 kdy s\u00a0ohledem na \u00factu k\u00a0\u010dlov\u011bku jste nedok\u00e1zali tyk\u00e1n\u00ed p\u0159ijmout, a\u010d jste souhlasili, aby V\u00e1m doty\u010dn\u00fd tykal, ale netu\u0161ili jste, jak to \u0159\u00edci slovy.<\/p>\n

Je tak\u00e9 vhodn\u00e9, aby dva tykaj\u00edc\u00ed si kolegov\u00e9 zachovali dekorum v\u00a0ofici\u00e1ln\u00edm obchodn\u00edm styku a vykali si. Co kdyby takov\u00fd e-mail skon\u010dil u klienta, kter\u00fd by se do\u010detl o velmi nev\u0161edn\u00edch zp\u016fsobech, jak\u00fdmi se kolegov\u00e9 v\u00a0dan\u00e9 spole\u010dnosti oslovuj\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Podobn\u011b: Pokud si tyk\u00e1m se starostou m\u011bsta, tak b\u011bhem ofici\u00e1ln\u00ed sch\u016fzky, na kter\u00e9 jsou p\u0159\u00edtomni i dal\u0161\u00ed z\u00e1stupci organizace, mu budu vykat.<\/p>\n

Zaznamenal jsem na internetu zaj\u00edmav\u00fd \u010dl\u00e1nek, o kter\u00fd se nemohu nepod\u011blit, neb problematika tyk\u00e1n\u00ed a vyk\u00e1n\u00ed je t\u00e9matem, o kter\u00e9m bychom si mohli pov\u00eddat hodiny. Ct\u011bn\u00e9mu \u010dten\u00e1\u0159i tak nab\u00edz\u00edm velmi zaj\u00edmav\u00fd pohled. \u010cl\u00e1nek s\u00a0n\u00e1zvem Tykejme\u00a0si.\u00a0Povinn\u011b<\/strong> naleznete na www.novinky.cz\/zena\/styl\/465175-tykejme-si-povinne.html<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

U\u017e se V\u00e1m to v \u017eivot\u011b stalo, \u017ee jste si ale opravdu necht\u011bli s n\u011bk\u00fdm tykat bu\u010f proto, \u017ee jste tu\u0161ili, \u017ee si pak za\u010dne k V\u00e1m dovolat mnohem v\u00edce nebo jste prost\u011b c\u00edtili takovou tu obrovskou \u00factu a neum\u011bli jste si p\u0159edstavit, \u017ee byste dan\u00e9mu \u010dlov\u011bku za\u010dali jen tak tykat? B\u011bhem prvn\u00edho setk\u00e1n\u00ed s…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-318","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-z-prace"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/318","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/10"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=318"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/318\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":319,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/318\/revisions\/319"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=318"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=318"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=318"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}