{"id":346,"date":"2018-12-30T09:20:04","date_gmt":"2018-12-30T08:20:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/?p=346"},"modified":"2018-12-30T09:34:00","modified_gmt":"2018-12-30T08:34:00","slug":"o-nenavisti-v-pratelstvi-aneb-jak-pomaha-oddelit-zrno-od-plev","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/?p=346","title":{"rendered":"O nen\u00e1visti v p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed aneb jak pom\u00e1h\u00e1 odd\u011blit zrno od plev"},"content":{"rendered":"

P\u0159ed p\u011bti lety jsem poslal na jednoho dlouhodob\u00e9ho dlu\u017en\u00edka sv\u00e9ho pr\u00e1vn\u00edka s\u00a0p\u0159ed\u017ealobn\u00ed v\u00fdzvou. Jen\u017ee to jsem nem\u011bl d\u011blat.<\/span> <\/strong>Z\u00a0dlu\u017en\u00edka se stal agresor, kter\u00fd za\u010dal na mnoha webech zve\u0159ej\u0148ovat pomluvy: \u017ee podnik\u00e1m neleg\u00e1ln\u011b, nem\u00e1m \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 akreditace, neplat\u00edm dan\u011b, \u2026 Sesypal jsem se, i kdy\u017e nic z\u00a0toho nebyla pravda a v\u0161e bylo dolo\u017eiteln\u00e9 (v \u017eivnostensk\u00e9m rejst\u0159\u00edku, v\u00a0seznamu akreditac\u00ed MV \u010cR, v\u00a0da\u0148ov\u00fdch p\u0159izn\u00e1n\u00edch).<\/p>\n

Tyto pomluvy m\u011bly ale jeden zaj\u00edmav\u00fd dopad: opustila m\u011b p\u0159\u00edtelkyn\u011b a n\u011bkolik kamar\u00e1d\u016f se ode m\u011b odvr\u00e1tilo. Bylo mi na nic, ale z\u00e1hy jsem si uv\u011bdomil, \u017ee to nebyli spr\u00e1vn\u00ed lid\u00e9, pokud dali p\u0159ednost l\u017e\u00edm p\u0159ed osobn\u00ed zku\u0161enost\u00ed. Jakou hodnotu m\u00e1 ztr\u00e1ta takov\u00fdch lid\u00ed?<\/p>\n

V\u00a0roce 2018 se situace opakovala. Jedna z\u00a0m\u00fdch kamar\u00e1dek za\u010dala ve\u0159ejn\u011b pomlouvat jednoho z\u00a0m\u00fdch nejlep\u0161\u00edch lektor\u016f: \u017ee je alkoholik, d\u011bvka\u0159, n\u00e1siln\u00edk\u2026 \u017ee pr\u00fd to sly\u0161ela od jeho spolupracovnice. Protestoval jsem proti t\u011bm tvrzen\u00edm\u2026 Vysv\u011btloval jsem, \u017ee to nen\u00ed pravda, ale i kdyby to pravda byla, nem\u00e1 pr\u00e1vo \u0161\u00ed\u0159it tyto informace. Vyj\u00e1d\u0159il jsem nesouhlas s\u00a0kamar\u00e1d\u010din\u00fdmi tvrzen\u00edmi. Jen\u017ee to jsem nem\u011bl d\u011blat.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Kec\u00e1m\u2026 jsem r\u00e1d, \u017ee jsem to ud\u011blal. Tahle bytost, kter\u00e1 v\u00a0\u017eivot\u011b moc nedok\u00e1zala a jen se vozila na \u00fasp\u011b\u0161\u00edch ostatn\u00edch (a m\u011b bavilo posouvat ji d\u00e1l a v\u00fd\u0161 v\u00a0osobnostn\u00ed i profesn\u00ed sf\u00e9\u0159e), za\u010dala \u0161\u00ed\u0159it pomluvy o m\u00e9 mali\u010dkosti mezi na\u0161imi spole\u010dn\u00fdmi p\u0159\u00e1teli. A j\u00e1 jsem byl nad\u0161en,<\/strong><\/span> kdy\u017e se objevily t\u0159i kousky, kter\u00e9 m\u011b okam\u017eit\u011b kopnuly do zadku a vyhodily z\u00a0p\u0159\u00e1tel na soci\u00e1ln\u00ed s\u00edti. Ale nad\u0161en\u011bj\u0161\u00ed jsem byl, kdy\u017e mi ti ostatn\u00ed sd\u011blili, \u017ee p\u0159ed nen\u00e1vistn\u00fdmi tvrzen\u00edmi pln\u00fdmi l\u017e\u00ed d\u00e1vaj\u00ed p\u0159ednost osobn\u00ed zku\u0161enosti. Nen\u00e1vist jedince mi pomohla odd\u011blit opravdov\u00e9 p\u0159\u00e1tele od \u201ep\u0159\u00e1tel\u201c.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pomlouv\u00e1-li n\u00e1s n\u011bkdo, je tomu zpravidla proto, \u017ee m\u00e1me n\u011bco, co on nem\u00e1, a\u0165 u\u017e t\u00edm n\u011b\u010d\u00edm je naka\u017eliv\u00fd sm\u00edch, obrovsk\u00e9 srdce, um\u011bn\u00ed naslouchat, nevy\u010derpateln\u00e1 z\u00e1soba skv\u011bl\u00e9 n\u00e1lady, opravdov\u00e1 p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed nebo jen dou\u0161ek inspirace, kter\u00fdm obohacujeme lidi kolem sebe. Posledn\u00edm stupn\u011bm z\u00e1visti je nen\u00e1vist. — Plinius ml.<\/span> I vzpomn\u011bl jsem si na Sokrat\u016fv test\u2026<\/p>\n

Sokrat\u016fv test<\/strong> [1]<\/a><\/h5>\n

V antick\u00e9m \u0158ecku <\/strong>(469\u2013399 p\u0159ed na\u0161\u00edm letopo\u010dtem) byl Sokrates \u0161iroce uzn\u00e1van\u00fd pro svou moudrost. <\/strong>Jednoho dne za n\u00edm cel\u00fd nad\u0161en\u00fd p\u0159ib\u011bhl jeden z jeho zn\u00e1m\u00fdch a\u00a0\u0159ekl:<\/p>\n

\u201eSokrate, v\u00ed\u0161, co jsem pr\u00e1v\u011b sly\u0161el o jednom z tv\u00fdch \u017e\u00e1k\u016f?\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201ePo\u010dkej chv\u00edli,\u201c<\/em> odv\u011btil Sokrates. \u201eP\u0159edt\u00edm, ne\u017e mi to \u0159ekne\u0161, chci, abys pro\u0161el jedn\u00edm mal\u00fdm testem: testem t\u0159\u00ed. Prvn\u00ed je test<\/strong>\u00a0pravdy<\/strong>.<\/strong> Jsi si absolutn\u011b jist\u00fd, \u017ee to, co se mi chyst\u00e1\u0161 \u0159\u00edct, je pravda?\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201eNe,\u201c<\/em> odpov\u011bd\u011bl mu\u017e, \u201ev podstat\u011b jsem to jen zaslechl.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201eV po\u0159\u00e1dku,\u201c<\/em> \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 Sokrates, \u201etak\u017ee ty nev\u00ed\u0161, jestli to je pravda nebo ne. Nyn\u00ed vyzkou\u0161\u00edme druh\u00fd test: test dobra<\/strong><\/em>.<\/strong> Je to, co mi chce\u0161 \u0159\u00edct o m\u00e9m \u017e\u00e1kovi, n\u011bco dobr\u00e9ho?\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201eNe, pr\u00e1v\u011b naopak\u2026\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201eTak\u017ee,\u201c<\/em> pokra\u010duje Sokrates, \u201ety mi chce\u0161 o n\u011bm \u0159\u00edct n\u011bco \u0161patn\u00e9ho, \u200b\u200bp\u0159esto\u017ee nejsi si jist\u00fd, jestli je to pravda?\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

Mu\u017e jen trochu zahanben\u011b pokr\u010dil rameny.<\/p>\n

Sokrates pokra\u010doval: \u201eJe\u0161t\u011b po\u0159\u00e1d m\u016f\u017ee\u0161 usp\u011bt, proto\u017ee je zde t\u0159et\u00ed test: test u\u017eite\u010dnosti.<\/strong> Bude to, co mi chce\u0161 \u0159\u00edct o m\u00e9m \u017e\u00e1kovi, pro m\u011b u\u017eite\u010dn\u00e9?\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201eNe, vlastn\u011b ani ne\u2026\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201eTak,\u201c<\/em> konstatoval Sokrates, \u201epokud to, co se mi chyst\u00e1\u0161 \u0159\u00edct, nen\u00ed ani pravdiv\u00e9, ani dobr\u00e9 a dokonce ani u\u017eite\u010dn\u00e9, pro\u010d mi to vlastn\u011b chce\u0161 \u0159\u00edct?\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

Mu\u017e z\u016fstal pora\u017een, zahanben a nic v\u00edc u\u017e ne\u0159ekl\u2026<\/p>\n

Ponau\u010den\u00ed: <\/strong><\/h6>\n
P\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u011b, kdy\u017e budete poci\u0165ovat pot\u0159ebu o n\u011bkom mluvit, zeptejte se nejprve sebe: Je to pravda? Je to dobr\u00e9? Je to u\u017eite\u010dn\u00e9?<\/strong><\/h6>\n

[1]<\/a> Zdroj: www.alternativnimagazin.cz\/sokratuv-test-nez-neco-vyslovite-podrobte-to-timto-3-testem\/<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

P\u0159ed p\u011bti lety jsem poslal na jednoho dlouhodob\u00e9ho dlu\u017en\u00edka sv\u00e9ho pr\u00e1vn\u00edka s\u00a0p\u0159ed\u017ealobn\u00ed v\u00fdzvou. Jen\u017ee to jsem nem\u011bl d\u011blat. Z\u00a0dlu\u017en\u00edka se stal agresor, kter\u00fd za\u010dal na mnoha webech zve\u0159ej\u0148ovat pomluvy: \u017ee podnik\u00e1m neleg\u00e1ln\u011b, nem\u00e1m \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 akreditace, neplat\u00edm dan\u011b, \u2026 Sesypal jsem se, i kdy\u017e nic z\u00a0toho nebyla pravda a v\u0161e bylo dolo\u017eiteln\u00e9 (v \u017eivnostensk\u00e9m rejst\u0159\u00edku, v\u00a0seznamu…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-346","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ze-zivota"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/346","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/10"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=346"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/346\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":352,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/346\/revisions\/352"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=346"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=346"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radim.martynek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=346"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}